Relationships can be draining and difficult. You might be exhausted by your repeated attempts to help, change, or fix someone you care about. Or you may find that you're unable to stand up for yourself for fear of disappointing a loved one. It's possible that you feel silenced by a family member or a friend who continually ignores you or invalidates your needs. Bit by bit, your self-esteem diminishes, leaving you feeing confused and lost. In this self-help guide you will take a good, hard look at your "disappearance" and the ways in which you can find your way back. Certified professional coach and creator of the highly regarded "Boundaries in Relationships" workshop, Sonja Meyrer leads you on a journey of rediscovery sharing poignant stories from her private practice, relevant research as well as her own experience in an alcoholic marriage in which she fought to find herself again. This guide covers topics such as: And offers practical tools for understanding: The Discussion Questions at the end of every chapter (as well as the Additional Resources) will give you a chance to personalize the material and apply it to your own life. This is a great resource to use in a small group or family as well. "Sonja, candidly and lovingly, sprinkles key moments of her life-journey to help us become keenly aware of how, at times, we may lose ourselves in unhealthy relationships in an attempt to find relational harmony. She then invites us further to author our individual and relational lives, with skill, intent, faith and purpose." Yamel Corcoll-Iglesias, LMFT Couples Therapist. "This isn't a book you speed read. It's a book that you take the morsels of wisdom and savor and digest it. Not only was the content well written and easy to understand (because this is a hard topic), each chapter gives you practical application and deep dive questions to make sure we get it. Hands down the best book on codependent relationships. Had I been able to apply these concepts 30 years ago, I might be such a hot mess." Amazon Review Sonja Meyrer is a certified professional coach who helps people navigate difficult relationships and situations where they feel "stuck." She offers individual coaching and intensive workshops through her private practice (SonjaMCoaching.com) located in St. Louis, MO. A former educator and curriculum designer, she also is deeply embedded in the recovery community and works closely with people whose lives have been affected by addiction. She loves running, her three children and anything that involves coffee or chocolate. For more information or to book a workshop or speaking engagement, please visit www.sonjamcoaching.com.