Este libro revela el modo en que la disciplina que imponemos para controlar la conducta de nuestros hijos es, en realidad, la causa principal de su mala conducta.
La doctora Tsabary afirma que para que la crianza sea eficaz debemos desarrollar una profunda conexión con nuestros hijos y abordar los sentimientos que impulsan sus conductas, en lugar de castigarlos.
Lejos de abogar por una actitud del tipo «dejar pasar» o «todo vale», la doctora Tsabary recomienda que los padres adopten una actitud resuelta, no basada en el control del niño sino, sobre todo, en ayudarlo a desarrollar un profundo sentido de responsabilidad personal.
ENGLISH DESCRIPTION
Every parent wants the golden key to raising well-behaved, academically gifted, successful, happy children.
Embedded in the collective psyche is the notion that discipline is the cornerstone to achieving these goals. Out of Control offers a never-before-published perspective on why the entire premise of discipline is flawed. Dr. Shefali Tsabary reveals how discipline is a major cause of generations of dysfunction. The author goes to the heart of the problems parents have with children, challenging society’s dependence on discipline, daring readers to let go of fear-based ideologies and replace them with an approach that draws parent and child together. The key is ongoing meaningful connection between parent and child, free from threats, deprivation, punishment, and timeouts — all forms of manipulation. Parents learn how to enter into deep communion with their children, understanding the reasons for a behavior and how to bring out the best in the child. Far from a laissez-faire, anything goes, approach, this is how a child learns responsibility and takes ownership of their life, equipped with character and resilience that flow naturally from within.