In this little book, I hope to shed a little light on the shadowy subject of, having a relationship with someone with Asperger's Syndrome. I won't advise anyone, warn anyone, or provide any contingency plans. My life with Rosa was fascinating. She dragged me kicking and screaming out of my past and into my present. I had issues before meeting her and she allowed me to work some of them out.Discovering Rosa was also a magical journey of self-discovery. It has been a privilege to know her and if I found the relationship difficult, it was because of us both. We both loved and we both wanted. And we both benefitted and suffered. I believe that any relationship with a lover, is a case of, 'it takes two to tango.' We grow and learn if we are wise. As a couple, we have run our race. Now we are friends and Bem's mums. I am still me and Rosa is still she, but after five years of separation, she is still by my side and I am still learning to be with her.